We believe in a
God who reveals himself to us as Love and in loving, committed, faithful
relationships. We believe that God’s love is not just something "holy and up
there somewhere" but something which is real and earthly and visible here for
everyone to see. If you ask us what does God’s love look like, we will point you
to Christian Marriage. We will tell you that Christians, at their best, living
loving, generous, unselfish, faithful, committed and permanent relationships
until death are signs of what God’s love is. We will tell you that even in the
difficulties of marriage, in the ups and downs and problems, how the couple
overcome the problems and reconcile themselves is also a sign of God’s deep
desire to reconcile us to himself when things go wrong between us and God.
For this reason a couple who wish to engage in a Church Marriage must realise
that their marriage is not a private thing between the two of them, but is a
public demonstration of their Faith and their understanding of the very nature
of the God they are publically professing. Their marriage is their contribution
to the life, Faith and joy of the Christian community of which they are part.
If it is your wish to identify with this Faith and understanding of marriage,
then Christian Marriage is the most wonderful thing which we can offer you and
which you can offer us.
To ensure the integrity of marriage, the church takes it seriously and there are
laws and requirements to preserve the dignity of marriage.
Weddings must be discussed with the parish priest before any date can be set.
At least one of the couple must be a Roman Catholic.
Both parties must be free to marry. If either of the couple has been previously
married the priest must be informed immediately to assess whether or not the
Church recognises the previous marriage even if there has been a civil divorce.
At least six months notice is to be given before the proposed date of the
marriage and a course of preparation will be arranged.
It is expected that the Catholic(s) will be attending Mass regularly before
requesting to be married in church. Church
marriage is a public expression of religious faith and the Catholic faith needs
to be expressed by regular participation in Sunday Mass (or the Saturday Vigil
Mass).
It is appropriate for the Catholic to marry in the Catholic church which he or
she currently
attends. If both are Catholics and attend church, it is usual for the church of
the bride to be the church where they will marry unless there is a reason to do
otherwise.
